2020-09-0623rd Sunday in Ordinary TimeRev. Msgr. Michael J. Motta, D.Min.

If someone does you wrong, Jesus says you should go to that person and talk about it. Do not brood and complain to someone else but go to the person who has offended you and work things out between you.

Marriage counselors talk about a technique called "sandbagging." When a river is rising, workers pile up bags of sand to support the dike and hold back the flood. But sometimes the water breaks the bags and comes crashing through. A wife is hurt by her husband but keeps it all to herself and says nothing about it. Eventually, there is so much resentment that it finally breaks through and she screams at him about things that he does not even remember.

St. James says in the Bible, "Do not let the sun go down on your wrath." In other words, do not sand bag. Always keep the lines of communication open.

The second thing that Jesus says is to be honest. Point out the fault. This is not easy to do. However, we all have faults but sometimes we are not aware of them. It is possible to hurt people without even knowing it.

Honesty is one of the most difficult things in a relationship. We often hide our true feelings from those we love. Parents do it to children and children to parents, husbands to wives and wives to husbands. Jesus says, "If he or she hears you, you have won your brother or sister. Honesty can save a relationship.

Jesus says be open. If personal discussion with another person does not resolve the difference then bring it to a third party. Get a professional counselor to help you out.

Jesus says if everything fails then "treat him as you would a gentile or tax collector." How did Jesus treat them? Jesus loved them and invited them to be part of the kingdom of God.

In conclusion, Jesus says that we must keep the lines of communication open by being honest and by having good will.

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